I’ve been big and I’ve been small… er. This we all know. But there are more than a handful of people out there who don’t as they may have only met me recently and don’t get my story. That’s fine as perhaps I REALLY need to get over the weight issues and stop making it what I’m all about.
But when it does come up and I have to prove that I was once a very different person, the reaction I get is usually the same.
“WOW! You were pretty then!”
Uh, why the shock? Why wouldn’t I have been pretty then? I’ve been carrying around the same face for close to 32 years just in various sizes. My features really haven’t changed. I’d like to think that I’ve always been somewhat easy on the eyes so why would my size change things?
Well, Carrie Fisher seems to think that weight has to do with pretty. She’s one of the Jenny Craig spokespeople and, in one of the ads currently running on tv, she thanks the diet plan for allowing her to feel pretty one more time (You can find a similar one on their YouTube channel that has the line taken out).
I hate to break it to you, Carrie, but pretty does not have size limitations. I’ve felt pretty at every size. Yes, I’m self conscious about my weight, can be down on myself and automatically think that many won’t be attracted to me because of it, but that does NOT make me any less pretty. In fact, I know some drop dead gorgeous women in every shape and size.
Weight loss helps your self-image, your self-esteem, your self-confidence but the pretty is something with which you’re born. And, as they saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder so everyone is pretty in their own way. Now, don’t take this as a statement made to placate everyone or in an internet is made of hugs sort of way. Weight loss does NOT improve something so subjective. However, it does affect the way YOU feel about yourself, the way YOU carry yourself and THAT affects how others see you. And that makes you pretty, beautiful, sexy and every other positive adjective out there.
I’m the heaviest that I’ve been in a few years, I still feel pretty and I’d like to think that other people find me attractive despite the 20lbs I need to lose. Why? Because I’m confident in my own skin, I like who I am and life is pretty damn good.
Pretty is so much more than your pant size. No amount of weight loss is going to change who you are. Pretty is always going to be there under the surface and you don’t need to shed the pounds to find it. Just look inside yourself.