3/11/08

"I'm just a fat cow"

Yeah, I heard you, but I'm not going to acknowledge it. I was recently introduced to a friend of a friend. I thought she was pretty kickass. She has a stellar personality and is pretty as can be. But she makes the most self-depreciating comments that I just cannot stand. Yes, she's me three years ago. Literally. My friend told her my story and now she wants tips and tricks on how to battle the bulge but every conversation is laced with f-bombs, and not the kind that I would normally be afraid to drop in front of my good catholic mother. I am talking about the kind we use to describe ourselves at our lowest points. When we want sympathy and support. When we want someone to tell us we're really ok and give us a big ol' ego boost. Sweetheart, you aren't going to get that here. I'll help you when you want to get help. When you embrace the healthy babe in you, not the frumpy chick that has you down. Because I know she's in there. That's the chick I met the first night who I thought was kickass. She's the chick I want to hang out with, help out anyway I can and sweat it up with at the gym. Leave debbie downer at home. She's only going to hinder your progress. Believe me, I know. I left her with a pizza, a bag of chips and a tub of ben and jerry's more than two years ago. Stop listening to what everyone else has to say and listen to what's inside of you. Let her come out and play.

13 comments:

Candace said...

It's hard to consistently support someone who is always down. Really makes you wonder if they want help or attention. At some point we have to figure out when to back off those individual I guess, before they start pulling us down. And some days it's hard enough to stay upbeat as it is.

Angie All The Way said...

Yup. Same here. I am done spouting great advice to people who aren't ready to accept it, so I am done trying to get people to the point where they are willing. When she's at the point where she comes to that "moment" to make that life changing decision, you'll be the best bud ever.

Jen said...

OOOH, I don’t get why people are like that!!! She certainly wouldn’t say that to other people…I hate when people are like that!!

Jenn said...

I am with the others on this one. I've had a couple people do the same thing to me, but they can't change unless they are ready. And to be ready you have to leave the self pity party behind. Some people just don't get it.

Randi said...

I hate when people are like this. No matter what it's about, they're just looking for a compliment to the other extreme. "I hate this hair cut, I look like a boy" wanting, "no you look so cute". "I'm fat and ugly" wanting "no you look fine!". I've started to just agree with them, that really throws them for a loop. "I'm just a fat cow" well no you're just an overweight person. But you have a nice smile. Don't try and feel better about where you are now if you don't like it. Do something about it.

Maybe I'm a bitch.

(here's where you say "no, you're just honest" lol)
;)

marie said...

I like bitches :P

Mandy said...

fantastic post

Sara said...

It is funny how everyone got a rant out of this post (maybe it was) but what I got out of it is that we need to just step up. Instead of beating ourselves up and wallowing in food we need to recognize the good in ourselves and the successes that we have. Instead of fishing for compliments demanding compliments by just being so darn amazing. Instead of of getting caught in the vicious cycle breaking free of it. That is what I liked about this post.

anna said...

yeah, i'm with you on this one! in fact, i'm with you on most of your mind ramblings and i soooo enjoy the way you roll it off. you are truly one of those people who can put it out there honestly and openly. AND not come off too cool for school.

marie said...

Don't get me wrong. I gave her a lot of great advice and I will as long as she ASKS for it and makes an effort to do something.

I just do not stand for people who sit there and make themselves a victim and put themselves down to bask in the glow of positivity.

Sweating at the gym will give you the same glow and make you feel ten times better.

I know the gym is hard work, but no one said weight loss was easy.

Shirls said...

perfectly stated :0)

Lucas said...

I loved this post, Mouse. Thanks for putting it out there for the rest of us.

Sonya said...

Thanks for that, I needed to read it!

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