7/25/07

fat friends make fat friends?

I don't know about you gals (guys - never know who's reading anymore), but I was the pretty much the lonely fat friend. I was the one who had to go with the slimmer buddies to the mall as they shopped and sort of stood off to one side because I couldn't really shimmy my hips through the narrow passage ways between the racks of clothes, plus it was far too embarrassing to dare try anything on as we would never venture into a plus size store so why bother trying on a skirt when it would only go over one leg? So why then is this new study showing that obesity spreads through social networks? Families, sure - I'll buy the farm on that one. I can see how my eating patterns can be shaped by mates and parents alike as I'm in close quarters with them and have to choose foods that they consume on many occasions out of courtesy, necessity, cost-efficiency, whatever. But I have a mind of my own here. I was able to lose some weight before where I lived in a house where many were making poor choices. I was able to make my own food and succeed as well as positively influence those around me. But the friends bit I still don't buy. Saying my friends were between a "57 and 171 percent" increased risk of becoming obese by associating with me is ridiculous. If anything I think spending less time with me over the last few years and growing apart has changed people more so than when I was obese and we were all gorging on Burger King whoppers after field hockey games or crazy drunken nights followed by fast food or God knows what else. Sure, obesity may be spreading from "person to person like a fashion or a germ" and it may be from poor habits that I had, but don't blame me for giving them to you. I got my butt off the couch and did something. I'm not cramming that cookie down your throat, or that that extra slice of pizza or telling you that you shouldn't exercise - that's YOUR choice. Habits are your own to make or break. Hopefully healthy ones are instilled in us when we're young and we aren't forced to make turnabouts like many of us have, but here we are. So if you caught obesity from me, I'm sorry. But my blog is here as a sort of anti-biotic if you will for the germ. Feel free to read and find out how to you can change things up, learn new, healthy eating habits, incorporate exercise into your daily life and make change for the better. It's the least I can do.

10 comments:

jodi said...

i just saw this report on the news tonight, found it pretty interesting... most of my relatives, on my mom's side, are overweight and it makes me sad... do they KNOW they're overweight? probably but where they live (middle of pennsylvania) being overweight is acceptable... i'm so glad i take after my dad's side (which still requires work!)... :o)

Sonya said...

It's funny you took that report and internalized it. Getting upset because they were saying you might have had a part in making others obese.

I on the other hand externalized it, and thought...hum...that's how I got fat! lol....

S.

CaRoLyN said...

Very interesting post for sure! Gives you something to think about.
I was also always the fat one out of all of my friends, it is a hard thing to go through as a child and it can certainly affect your self esteem to great lengths but I certainly don't think any of my friends who were overweight or became overweight did so by following my eating habits. Being obese, as I was for a long time is a decision you make yourself. Just the same as being healthy is. I made a decision to eat healthy and to lead a healthy lifestyle on my own. No one forced the cookie down my throat, just as no one is forcing the carrots down there now!

Mandy said...

Very interesting! It's similar to the mindset of people who blame all of their problems on their parents..... bah... you have a mind of your own, you make your own choices, don't blame anyone else for it! Same as people who sue fast food places for making them fat! RIDICULOUS!!!

~paige~ said...

yeah, i can't buy the friend thing either. i can totally see it within families though when it comes to eating

Sara said...

I don't buy it. In my group of friends I was the fat one, I lost weight everyone stayed the same. Not one got fat. No they may be "skinny fat" but that is another story...

Ro said...

Hmm, very interesting. I think my best friend and I do affect one another when it comes to food choices when we're eating out. We're both trying to eat healthy now; however there was a time when we would be out and as soon as one suggests eating something 'bad' (ie. spinach dip or nachos for an appy) the other is tempted to go along with the bad choice, because she's doing it too (partners in crime, lol)! So, we do have a bit of an affect on one another...same goes for when we're super OP...if I get a low fat, healthy meal she's bound to do the same. Or if she's out for a walk, that will encourage me to join her (we live nearby).

So I think you're right in saying we make our own choices and it's our decision what we put in our mouths, however in my case, my friend and I do seem to have a bit of an affect on each other.

It's a good thing we're both trying to lose weight right now as we tend to be a great support for one another!!

Shrunk said...

Yeah I disagree with the theory that obesity runs in circles of friends too. I, like you, was the only "fat" friend.

Anonymous said...

The idea of others determining you weight due to food intake is ridiculous, as for it running in families, genetics (metabolisim) has a major role in your wieght. You are either born with a fast acting metabolisim or not. If not you join WW.

Mojo

Natalie said...

I'm always the fattest in my circle of friends. Hopefully they won't stop hanging out with me in fear that I'll make them fat too.

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