6/8/07

I refuse to be the skinny friend

So I went shopping with my old roomie Jammer last night. We were on a mission to find a dress for a wedding she has to go to in a few weeks and I was on a mission to add to my shoe collection (which in no way rivals Jen’s ). After trying to convince her to buy dresses at nicer stores (including this puuuuuuuurdy dress at Marciano which I WISH I had an occasion to wear to because I would SOOOOOOO go and snap it up! – I LURVE Guess!), but no. She must shop at Le Crapeau.

Sadly, I have to admit, two of the dresses I actually liked and might have bought myself if I had somewhere to go but can’t justify spending over $100 in that store on one item.

I can however justify spending $100 in that store on two pairs of shoes (WHEEEEE), which was well timed because a strap on the wedge sandals I was wearing yesterday BROKE while we were walking on Queen West. Sorry, no pics of the shoes available – maybe I’ll snap a pic of them on my feet one day. They’re both wedgy looking, one has a corky looking heel with white straps that goes around the ankle and the other pair is black and are more slip on. I like em :D

After our mission and coming away with shoes, no dresses (UGH), we went off to Swiss Chalet for our “family meal”(it’s our thing – we used to order it all the time when we lived together). Here’s where Jammer tries to get all healthy and proclaims she’s ordering the club wrap because it has veggies in it…but she’s still getting the fries…but then asks me if that’s ok, which makes me laugh. Jammer is about 5’5 and maybe 125lbs. She has always been fit and HOT as long as I’ve known her. Her asking ME for eating advice is LAUGHABLE. I tell her she doesn’t need to be concerned with me and my points, but she should be following Canada’s Food Guide a little better, but being the Weight Watchers freak I am, I looked up the point value on my Treo and told her it was 16 for the wrap (when it turns out it is really 12 - Thanks Angie :) ). Well, she balked at that, then asked if that was bad and waited to see what I was getting. Same as always, ¼ chicken white, salad and no dressing. I know how many points I had going in and I stuck to my plan. Now all of a sudden she’s changing her tune and following me (with dark, but asking me if that’s ok)…but still with the fries (gotta love the girl) and then the whole conversation turns to the plan and why do I stick to it when I’m the same size as her now…

BUH?!

It hit me then.

I never see myself as an equal to Jammer. She has always been thinner, prettier and more fit than I am. I can try on the same dresses as her, and I did. I fit in the same clothes as her (maybe not the same size pants, but the next size up) but she doesn’t have the rolls that hang over on her belly when she sits down, she can wear a bikini and not scare people away. I may fit in the same clothes, but we don’t fit in the same molds, which is a good thing. I have to work hard to stay where I am and she can do it effortlessly. I envy her, but at the same time I don't want to be her. I like who I've become and if I can help her, that's cool.

She can be my skinny friend, and I can be her healthy friend.

7 comments:

eurydice said...

People are always asking me why I stick to the plan too! I find when I eat like other people (or think I do... actually I have no idea how they eat when they aren't with me) I gain weight.

Did you know the mashed potatos at Swiss Chalet are less points than the baked potato? And that all the Swiss Chalets in Winnipeg closed because no one was eating there! (I have cousins in Winnipeg who love it haha.)

Angie All The Way said...

Yeah, the bugger about this whole thing is that it seems (from what I've heard from others who have actually gotten there) that even when you are in a position to being "equal" with the forever "skinny" people, they can still sit there and eat really whatever they want for the most part and stay the same size and poor us have to really focus and stay on plan to maintain the same "equality." I haven't yet gotten to that stage to experience it myself, but what, is it some sort of physical side affect of once being obese that stays with you forever?

Re the club wrap thing: I thought they were 12 points! I keep picking up ranges from everywhere on this point value. When I first started and was on like 30 points a day, I used to get one every friday night as our "take out night" (with side salad of course!)

Sarah said...

iiiinteresting post, Marie! I've never been the skinny friend, and I find it really easy to succumb to peer pressure when I'm eating out. I definitely identify with Jammer, I'd be checking with someone all the time if I thought they had knowledge I didn't!

marie said...

angie - you are right. the NI on SC site and the calculator say 12 - my treo says 16, maybe it included something else...i didn't read the notes. have to adjust that puppy.

Bi0nicw0man said...

I love that she kept asking you what was healthy but wouldn't give up her fries. Haha.

You are getting the opposite of "are you allowed to have that"...can't win can we?

Sara said...

All my friends are like Jammer - thin and can eat what they want. Good for you for sticking to your guns - I almost always succomb!

Mandy said...

Excellent post. Very cool about realizing you are the same size as her - but yes, we will always have that 'roll' won't we? Ah well, the scars of our journey.....
Good for you for helping her choose healthier options!

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