3/9/07

the reluctant spokesperson

The day has passed and my claim to fame will now be making it's way into people's grey & blue boxes across the GTA. It was fun while it lasted. I got calls, texts and e-mails from family and friends, some I haven't heard from in awhile, congratulating me on my success, which was nice. Then there was some thoughts that brought home why I hesitated for a second to do this in the first place. Someone mentioned that they thought I had always been thin and never realized how much I'd lost on Weight Watchers. I did take it as the compliment that it was intended to be but there are other times where I explain to people that I'm on Weight Watchers and they turn up their nose at me and talk down to me telling me I don't "NEED to be on a diet." Yes, you're right, I DON'T need to be on a diet. But I do need to follow a healthy eating plan to maintain the great weight loss that I've experienced in the past year and a half. Being overweight from youth until my young adult years was ROUGH. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. But to have people not believe my story hurts. I could go on about the cruel comments from kids on the ball field when I was 12, how no one would date me in high school, how I used to get rashes under my belly flap from sweating too much...but then I'd just be a skinny girl whining about when she was bigger, and that's just unflattering. I had so many conversations with people before the article came about this. I was afraid I wasn't the right person for it. There are so many other people more worthy to be featured. I'm not as supportive as others on the boards, as OP as others or have had that dramatic of a change. But in the end, it's the subject matter that matters the most. Getting people to be more aware of their options to lose weight, doing Weight Watchers and online tools available. Doing this changed my life, for the better. Blogging has been a way to share my story with other people, help and be helped. This star article was a great way for us to reach a wider audience, dispel myths about the program and encourage others to do something! It's funny. For someone who shies away from being the centre of attention, I sure put myself in it a hell of a lot. ...and maybe for kicks tonight when i go to my parents house....i'll put on my prom dress and show you the difference in sizes from then to now :P

9 comments:

Jen said...

First of all, I would like to say that I find you to be one of the most inspirational people around...I too have been overweight since a child and when I reach goal I want to be proud of my eating habits and WW...I don't think that it's fair for people to take that pride away from you since you bloody well earned it!!!!

I would love to see the size difference in your prom dress, I look forward to that day myself (well it's already too big...but you know...falling off would be nice!!!)...


now quit whining skinny girl!!! Ha ha...I am kidding!!!

Mandy said...

I know what mean Marie... people are giving me the 'look' of disapproval when I say I have a bit more to lose yet. And I'm sure once I'm at goal, I'll get the same negative reactions that you are getting. It bothers me a lot - it's good to see someone else put it into words that are so accurate for what I'm dealing with as well.

Yes, show us the prom dress! Pretty please!

Sarah said...

Marie,

This is a very insightful post. One thing in particular struck me - that you refer to yourself as a "skinny girl" ... that must feel FANTASTIC!

I hope you know that most of us who read this know how hard you worked to get to where you are now. You are incredibly inspirational for me, I can't wait to call myself 'skinny' :)

Sarah

~paige~ said...

we MUST see a picture of this prom dress. i am hoping for peach taffetta... or electric blue satine.
girl, you are totally worthy of being in teh article. you are awesome and you have done such an amazing job on getting healthy

Angie All The Way said...

I can only imagine and anticipate the same type of response when I reach goal and it is so great to get some insight on it from you. I have lost a ton of weight, and am currently 185lbs, which for most people is an average start weight and I get people saying, "Oh you aren't going to lose much more are you?" And yes, I do take it as a compliment, but geez, I still have like 30+ pounds to fall into a healthy weight category.

The bottom line is, only a certain group of people (us), and those who have had these struggles will truly understand it. The main thing is to accept that you don't have to prove anything to those who will never understand, but speak to those who will truly benefit from your story.

But I know that it hurts to feel that people are critical of your journey because you worked, and continue to work, so damn hard at it.

NattyMcGoo said...

People don't understand that ww is a lifestyle change - lifestyle meaning for life. They think it's a weight loss program (which it is initially) but don't realize that once the hard work of losing is done there is the maintenance portion which is probably just as hard or harder. If we all went back to our old ways, we'd be where we started. That's stupid!

Don't worry about those who are jealous or just never had eating issues and can't relate. You are beautiful and healthy and that's all that matters. Plus you inspire countless others like me :)

Own your success; you deserve it!

Shirls said...

I can't wait to see the prom dress comparison photos, I know you have worked hard and continue to work hard, and as a fellow WW'er I love your comments, you have kept me on track many, many times. Go Skirt!!

Pam, the belly dancing queen said...

Marie, you don't have to prove anything to anyone!! Your stats say it all--nobody can take that away from you. Be proud girl!! I'd also like to see the prom dress, I'm guessing it's "poofy"??!!

jen999 said...

I think you absoluetly ROCK, Marie!! By putting yourself out there the way you have, you've helped SO many people.. Not just us, the people who aleady know and love you, but all the people out there who might be sick of themselves as overweight and looking for a solution to their problem.. So for someone who shies away from the being the centre of attention, that you put yourself in it, shows what a caring, compassionate person you are.. You're the best!! And an amazing inspiration for me everyday!

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