3/18/07

another case of mistaken identity

at first it's sort of flattering; people doing double takes or not recognizing you when you approach them on the street, on a subway platform or at the bar where you've said you'd meet them at the arranged time...like last night. Granted, my friend hadn't seen me in maybe 5 or 6 years so I have changed a lot, but this happens A LOT to me. I go up to people and they have no clue who the hell I am until I smile and they see my scrumper ring (now, Shirls, Shaunna and anyone who is reading this and actually knows me are probably the only ones who will be smiling knowingly at this one. The former specifically for the little conversation we had about my piercing the other night ;) . The rest who are going "what the hell is a scrumper?!" can see what it is from an old pic from my vancouver trip last year here. thought i had food stuck in my teeth all this time, eh? ). Anyway, a few weeks ago I ran into a friend on the subway who's been getting healthy himself (he even jokes that his new goal is 135 "like mouse") and when I came up to him on the subway platform and touched him on the arm he acted as though I was a street urchin begging for change (didn't know they carried yoga mats nowadays...). But again, I flash my little smile and you can see the recognition flash across their face and it changes from "who the f*ck are you?" to "omigawd! mouse!" I thought it was sort of cute that he did this and I've joked about it since. But it happens again, and again, and AGAIN. Then last night - I'm off to see a friend I was INCREDIBLY close with in elementary school who's home for a short while from Montreal. It took her almost a full minute to realize who I was. I had to slowly say her name, say my name, say our school, smile...FINALLY I get the big smile, hug and million questions. She of course is a special case. She's been away from the city for so long and hasn't been around to see me and my changes. But then again, I wonder if she would have the same reaction to everyone else. Probably not as I scan the faces of the group that get together and you would recognize them on the spot. I seem to be the only one that everyone has trouble with at first. Luckily not everyone does though as I've kept in touch with a few people and I have relatives in the group that have given me an "in" and kept me popping in and out of their lives in the past few years. I just wonder how often I'm going to have to REINTRODUCE myself to the people who pop in and out of my life... I was impressed though at how much our childhood friendship made an impression on her life and how much she remembers to this day. It was really refreshing to know that now matter how much I change myself outwardly, I can come back, sit down and have a chat with an old friend who I can still have so much in common with and share great stories with about good times gone by and make fun plans for the future.

8 comments:

jen999 said...

I think it's so cool that you're getting to see all of your old friends!! It's SO nice to broaden your social circle.. Funny how life will seperate us from people we care about only to bring us back together later.. I hope I get this chance someday..

As I was reading your post I was thinking to myself, is she nuts?? I would LOVE to see people from my past and have them fail to recognize me because of the weight I'd lost.. But as I continued to read on, I can actually see what you mean.. It would be nice the first few times, but I can see how it would become tiresome after a while.. You may have even started to feel a little bit unmemorable, at least that's how I would feel.. But honestly, I think you should remember that these people remember the old mouse, and your face alone has changed so much!! You've always been beautiful, but different facial features are more distinguishable now.. There's also a chance that some of these people, like the friend on the Subway, could've been so caught up in his own thoughts that it could've taken a second to register for him even if he'd seen you recently.. I know I'm babbling on, I just felt the need to comfort.. lol! *hugs*

Btw, your piercing is really cool!! I've never seen one in that place before!! It must've hurt like a biotch!!

NattyMcGoo said...

Ah, what a nice post! I can't wait for the day when people won't recognize me because I've lost a lot of weight. That must be so rewarding!

And meeting an old school friend - how fun. It's nice to know you touched her life.

Have a good Sunday!

meredi said...

How nice... to know that you made such an impact on someone's life that she remembers it to this day! That says a lot about you, Marie :)

With all of this need for 'reintroduction', do you feel at all like you have a chance to 'start over' with people at all now? Like you can reinvent your personality to match your new appearance? I'm curious about this. I know I had trouble with feeling too conservative and 'goody two shoes' when I was growing up -- I always yearned for those breaks, when I would go to a new school and meet an entirely new set of friends that wouldn't have any expectations of who I was and how I acted. I'm wondering if losing a lot of weight is an opportunity for a similar type of reinvention of self. Then again, I recognize that unlike me in the past, a lot of people feel no NEED for that reinvention, so I'm really just blathering on here, thinking as I type...

Shrunk said...

LMAO! Well I can see how noone would recognize you. You look COMPLETELY different! I don't get much of that because I was only overweight for 4 yrs. It's more like people didn't recognize me when I was fat. It must feel good though Marie. At least you've got the scrumper to remind everyone of who you are ;o)

Shirls said...

wow, this is just too odd, I was just about to add a new post to my blog about this very topic, I got a triple take on Friday when I ran into some old co-workers. I even had to explain who I was to a few and then.."your eyes are the same" and all was good.

Side note - there is a benefit, when you don't want to be known, you can observe and hide, right out in the open.. sometimes that in itself is a great gift :)

Angie All The Way said...

I hear ya. I had the same experience when i went to my home town a month or so ago. I spotted a few friends at the grocery store and as I was approaching them they were wondering who the hell the girl was that was running up to them with a big smile on her face! It took a few seconds for them to clue into who i was!

It's kinda nice, but at the same time, a little awkward too to have to go into the big weight loss speel every time. I never know what to say.

Jen said...

yeah, I was really starting to wonder why you always had food in your teeth...yeesh! KIDDING!!!! I just thought you had a tongue ring or something (not that it would always be poking about, but some people are always sticking it through their teeth...hm, I will stop rambling now...) That must have hurt like hell!!!

I can see that it would get frustrating to reintroduce yourself to people BUT, on the bright side, maybe now you can get a quick getaway from people you DON'T want to talk to ;)

~♥ Amanda ♥~ said...

that would be frustrating to have to reintroduce yourself all the time. i'm like shrunk where i was always thinner and only bigger for the past few years. i always hated it when people i hadn't seen in a while would see me fat, i can just imagine the things they would be thinking! LOL!!!!

that piercing must have hurt like crazy!!!!!

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