2/19/07

Honesty is the best policy....

  • Facing the scale after a bad weekend point wise is the best thing you can do for yourself
  • I did NOT expect to see 133.5lbs when I stepped on it this morning
  • I didn't like that number at all
  • I looked in the mirror with that number in my head and I finally started to see why people get concerned about me sometimes...only sometimes though. The other times I still think they're crackers like when they ask me if I eat. Were you there the other day when I went 26 points over? yeah, didn't think so....
  • After that, I crawled back into bed. My gym schedule seems to have gone from 5-6 days a week to 3....
  • How do people make dating and WW WORK? Every time I try I fail miserably. I'm so upfront about it and then I have to abandon ship at the last minute because I feel guilty or guys make sad puppy dog faces or rude comments. How the hell do you people do it short of making your own food? But how do I manage to make it work with friends? Maybe it just goes back to self-esteem and wanting to be accepted...hmmmm
  • I often wonder why people read a blog and never comment...got nothing to say? afraid of something? no blog to track back to? I like advice...frankly, I feel like I need a lot lately. I'm starting to feel really lost.

7 comments:

Angie All The Way said...

Re: 133.5 - Well so far anyone I have talked to who is on maitenance verifies that it is way harder than losing the weight and I think you were one of them who recognized that. You have said that you are attempting to make the transition to cancel online and have began journalling on your own. Maybe you might want to consider scrapping the journal for a week and see where that takes you - just for one week to see. Maybe then you won't think about it so much and it might ease the pressure. Your metabolism is likely increasing with all the exercise you have been doing regularly. Up your points this week and allow yourself to do so without thinking you are off the plan. Your body is telling you it needs more calories to sustain.

You are right, honesty is the best policy with this program. Our bodies do not listen to our ramblings and justification, this component is all physiological.

WW does in one sense take over a person's life and it seems like you are starting to see how it is interfering. You are at the stage now that you are at your goal weight and are in maitenance. You are in a position where you can experiment with relaxing the "rules" a little bit with your structure. You will not gain wait and get back to where you were over night. You can fluctuate 3-5lbs without too much alarm. I know that it's a scarry thought though. For me, most of this journey is psychological and I can see myself facing the same problem when I get to goal.

NattyMcGoo said...

I don't feel like the authority on weight watchers at this point so it's hard to give advice.

As for the dating and ww thing I can only imagine how hard it is. Luckily my DH is following with me and has lost weight too which is nice. I kind of get it though, last week was my bd and everyone kept saying, you can splurge. That's not supportive and if you have a guy who is pushing you to splurge, that's scary. I'd be concerned I'd revert to my old ways if I slip even a bit.

Just follow your gutt about this dude. It sounds to me like you aren't really impressed with him at this point.

What do I know, really?

Mandy said...

I don't have any advice on dating and ww because I imagine it to be very difficult. I almost never go out to eat and that makes my life much easier on WW. Sorry you weren't happy with your WI this morning, as Angie said, I believe maintenance is harder than losing the weight and kudos to you for doing so well on it. It's life-long battle, but we're in it together.

Pam, the belly dancing queen said...

I can't really comment on the "dating" thing other than to say--if it doesn't feel right, don't waste the time. Maybe this guy is immature(ya think???!!)or doesn't really see how insensitive he was. I'd talk to your friend and let her know you don't want her to be his go-between and then decide what you want to do with him.
It's true what they say about WW being a lifestyle change, just remember it's flexible as well. Don't be so hard on yourself, you've had such amazing results.
Thanks for putting a comment on my blog :P

GINGER said...

I find it very difficult to date and to be on this type of lifestyle.(but has to be managed for sure) I was resently dating this guy who is easy going about how I eat, but when it came to his food was all over the takeout board.(bad trap) But when comes down to it, I think it's suppose to be somewhat easy fall into place have you.(but what do I know im forever single lol) If this one doesn't work out, I hear there are plenty of fish in the sea! If that made any sense at all! Stay Cool!

meredi said...

Hey, sorry to hear you weren't happy with the scale this morning. :(

As for dating on WW, ugh, it is really difficult. I guess it's a little different for me, because I was already dating my boyfriend when I started on WW. It's got to be a lot harder to tell a near-stranger that you have to watch what you eat. :/

But yeah, in terms of eating together, it is hard. He feels limited in the restaurants we can go to now, and when we're at home he'll eat my stuff but I know he's not that happy with it. We always have to have both white and whole wheat bread, 2% and skim milk, etc., etc. too, which is a drag. We've started eating at home a lot more, but honestly when we do find a restaurant we can both agree on it's almost better, because my food choices don't have to influence his the way they do at home.

Anyway, there is a lot of guilt involved, but a guy who truly cares about you is willing to hold your hand through it all. I know my boyfriend isn't completely happy but he's still supporting me as much as he can, plus he likes the results. ;) I think the key is involving him in the process and acknowledging his feelings about it. Otherwise the tension can build on both sides of the relationship.

Don't know if this helps at all :/ I guess I just mean to say that the guilt is normal and we all experience it, but in the end this journey is about US and we can't apologize to the men in our lives about wanting to be healthy people; the most we can do is compromise and do our best to acknowledge that it's not easy for them either.

Catalogrrr said...

I often don't comment on people's blogs because I don't necessarily know what to say.

Maintenance is the hardest part. I've regained nearly 20 of what I lost and I am unhappy with that. Yesterday was a bad day. My "fat" pants are starting to get tight.

The WW lifestyle is not for everyone. Those who get it, really get it. Those who don't fall into 2 camps: 1. They don't get it and don't want to bother trying. 2. They don't get it but they will make an effort to understand.

I am fortunate that my husband has been incredibly supportive of all of this. He isn't overweight and never has been but he respects that this is what I need to do in order to be healthy.

Eventually, the rude comments stopped bothering me. Either that, or I just decided to ignore them. I don't know which.

I make my own food. When I go out, I go to almost any restaurant I want and make healthy choices from that menu. I avoid things like chinese and thai. I always look for a salad and ask for dressing on the side. Hopefully, I can get it with some grilled shrimp. Let the others eat the junk.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that it goes back to self-esteem and wanting to be accepted. We all want that. It's hard to get there. In the meantime, all you can do is be true to yourself.

I hope that helps. I'm going back to lurking now. :)

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